Love is All-Ways the Answer

Title: Your Worthiness is Not the Same as Your Productivity

Fri, 07 Jan 2022 06:00:07 +0000

In this episode, Steve discusses how Capitalism conditions us to believe that our worthiness as a human depends on our ability to produce. This is so deeply a part of our culture (esp. in capitalist based societies) that our very survival depends on it. It’s completely systemic. Nevertheless, it’s untrue. Steve shares how to extrapolate this in our hearts, and maintain a “more love, not less - all-ways” perspective while also being in a system that doesn’t operate this way.

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The Importance of Being with What Is

Fri, 12 Nov 2021 06:00:14 +0000

In this episode, Steve talks about how we as humans are usually in pursuit of a different experience than the one we're having - especially if that experience is uncomfortable. As we do this, we miss the present moment and what it's here to teach us and how it can help us heal, develop, and grow. Steve shares some of his experiences with discomfort and then demonstrates how he gets into healthy relationship with what's showing up for him. It's work that's challenging but profoundly healing.

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Productivity / Time Management with Love

Wed, 13 Oct 2021 20:19:07 +0000

In this episode, Steve will share some tips about how to manage time, energy, priorities, and relationships in alignment with love. He shares a couple keys to finding your own way towards a system that works for you - two specific things that relieve pressure and shame from traditional time management systems. He also talks about how to be in healthy relationship with structure and flexibility. He also reviews his Ar-Rashid Journaling system which he'll be teaching in The Village in December, 2021. If you're interested, you're welcome to check out The Village.

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Find the transcript of this episode here.

Why Simple Decisions Can Feel So Challenging

Sun, 26 Sep 2021 05:00:06 +0000

In this episode, Steve helps you understand why so many of the seemingly simple decisions you have to make day to do take up so much space, time, and energy. If they are so simple, why do they feel so challenging? Steve not only unpacks the reasons why, he also shares the three key ways to assess if a decision is simple or not, and a couple strategies on how to make those decisions in alignment with your heart and love

If you would like to learn more about Steve Mattus and his work at ∞actualinfinity, visit his website at https://actualinfinity.com

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Giving Useful Feedback with Love

Fri, 17 Sep 2021 05:00:05 +0000

In this episode, Steve shares four tips on how to give useful feedback in a way that is loving. He also defines what feedback actually is, and clarifies that what is requested is very rarely actually feedback - it's something completely different.

Items referenced in the podcast:

Article on Receiving Feedback as a Highly Sensitive Person: https://actualinfinity.com/blog/request-feedback-hsp/
Article in Harvard Business Review about The Feedback Fallacy: https://hbr.org/2019/03/the-feedback-fallacy

Transcript can be found here: https://actualinfinity.com/blog/liata_s01_ep008/

If you would like to learn more about Steve Mattus and his work at ∞actualinfinity, visit his website at https://actualinfinity.com

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Seeing Boundaries Through the Lens of Love

Thu, 09 Sep 2021 05:00:09 +0000

In this episode, Steve discusses a new way to relate to boundaries through the lens of love. What if, instead of boundaries being a place where we block relationship and push away connection, they were a place of contact, an invitation to come closer in a healthy way?

Tune in as Steve discusses this new love-centered concept he learned from Duey Freeman, MA, LPC and co-founder of the Gestalt Equine Institute of the Rockies

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A Healthier Way to Look at Shame

Tue, 20 Apr 2021 13:00:47 +0000

In this episode, Steve walks through what he perceives as a common misconception around healthy shame vs. toxic shame, and that shame is an emotion. Steve is increasingly convinced that shame is not an emotion at all, but instead a coping strategy, and only one of two coping strategies... and the other one is not "healthy" shame. It's something entirely different.

In this episode, Steve breaks it all down as he currently understands it, and invites you to explore the two strategies available when the catalyst of our Moral Intelligence is sparked.

If you would like to learn more about Steve Mattus and his work at ∞actualinfinity, visit his website at https://actualinfinity.com

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Making Meaning - When it's helpful, and when it's not.

Fri, 26 Feb 2021 16:19:28 +0000

In this episode, Steve discusses how we as humans are all about the story, and what that story means. It's how we've learned to survive. But it's not as useful today, as it once may have been. In fact, there are many instances where making meaning is actually counter-productive and unhelpful - sometimes even harmful. Learn how to make the distinction, and enjoy a fun exercise around meaning making that will teach you something about yourself.

If you'd like to share your story or response, please reach out to Steve via email at steve.mattus@actualinfinity.com.

If you would like to learn more about Steve Mattus and his work at ∞actualinfinity, visit his website at https://actualinfinity.com

To stay in touch with Steve, enroll in his Heart Notes at https://actualinfinity.com/notes

Find the full transcript for this episode here.

How do we Build a Bridge Moving Forward?

Sun, 13 Dec 2020 18:05:00 +0000

This is a bit of a Sunday Sermon to white people about what's required to help us take responsibility for building a bridge to the future. It's not comfortable, might even be a little controversial, and it's what I believe a healthy path forward involves. Get ready... we're about to talk about power, privilege, fragility, and justice - along with some other really important ingredients.

Walking Your Path w/ Compassion

Mon, 30 Nov 2020 07:00:16 +0000

As you move through your life, business, relationships, work, etc. it's not uncommon to feel uncertain, off track, or even lost. What are some ways that you can stay connected to your heart, check your guidance system, and keep moving forward with integrity? This episode outlines some specifics steps to keep your guidance system sharp.

The Beauty of Grace & Mercy

Sun, 22 Nov 2020 17:01:34 +0000

Grace and mercy are essential qualities - especially in today's world. What if you were able to receive more grace and mercy in your heart? How would that shift your experience?

In Episode 2 of the podcast, I explore the deeper meanings of grace and mercy and various ways you may be able to practice accessing and practicing both in your life and business.

I also go into a Divine Quality which can directly transmit this quality through your heart, and show you how to use it.

Welcome to the Podcast - An Introduction

Wed, 21 Oct 2020 02:32:25 +0000

An overview of what this podcast is about, who it's for, and my intentions for bringing love to deep, compassionate, and sometimes confronting topics.